fierceawakening:

decepticonsensual:

pervocracy:

gungoda:

pervocracy:

“Unfollow me if…” is such an unfortunate way of saying “fuck you.”  Since the Tumblr follow system is asymmetric, all it really means is “if you don’t agree with me about certain important things, stop listening to me.”

Nah.

If you think trans people are faking it for attention, follow me!  If you think we don’t need feminism now that sexism is over, follow me!  If you think Millennials are lazy degenerates because sometimes you see them texting, follow me!  If you think I’m an ambassador from a world of entitled pervert whiners, but for whatever reason you’re willing to listen to me, please do!  You might fuckin’ learn something!

or ya know when someone says “unfollow me if…” they mean “you are a bigot and/or is against something that i am and i am uncomfortable with you in my vicinity, get the fuck away from me”

especially that first one holy fuck if someone who thought trans people faked it for attention followed me, a trans person, logically they think im faking it for attention, and why the fuck would i want anyone like that around me

why would anyone want someone whos against something that they are around them?? this extends to serious issues like their stances on trans people and femenism and racism and gay marriage, to smaller things like otherkin/fictionkin or whether or not they think byfs are fucking stupid 

like, i get that statement for discourse blogs? like if someone on one side of the ace discourse prohibits anyone from the other side following them, that i get, like, you made that blog to argue with people

but on personal blogs people can do whatever the hell they want

Well, first of all, yes, you can do what you want, obviously.

But I don’t share the feeling that someone who reads my writing from afar is “around me.”  If they’re leaving aggressive notes on my posts, that’s different, but if they’re merely following while believing awful things?  To me that doesn’t feel like being in a small room with them; it feels like writing an article in a magazine that they happened to read.

I guess it’s just a very different visualization of what Tumblr is.  To you (and a few other replies I’ve gotten, not to single you out), maybe people following you creates a sense of proximity and association?  To me it’s more like broadcasting, where following is a purely receptive relationship that doesn’t have any impact on me.

This is a really interesting conversation - I’m wondering if it comes down to a split between folks who think of Tumblr as mostly like Facebook (where friending someone does imply a connection and it’s not uncommon to hide posts from people you don’t want commenting on them), or mostly a blogging platform like, say, Livejournal, where you’re putting something out into the world and people following you is just like bookmarking your site.

to me, someone following me is someone who wants to hear what I have to say. I want people who don’t agree with me to hear what I have to say. I think I’m reasonably persuasive, actually!

Come one, come all. I’ll only block if you’re mean.

I think this makes a lot of sense for people who write a lot of personal posts and are very open about their lives.

A lot of people use tumblr to publicly post about intensely personal stuff, stuff that would have normally gone under some sort of friends-lock on a site that had such a thing.  I don’t know why tumblr responded to the lack of f-lock by just making this stuff public, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing – for instance it seems to let people quickly meet and bond over depressing or embarrassing life circumstances, something that wouldn’t normally happen (outside of actual support groups) because people otherwise tend to talk about such things only to people they already know

But, by the same token, many tumblr blogs are about the sort of thing one might not want read by people one would never take into confidence in real life.  Except they’re public, so anyone can read them.  This is inherently a difficult situation (and only gets worse when you consider that reblogging can move posts past the eyes of many different audiences – something that doesn’t happen on LJ or FB).  But telling people to unfollow you seems like a sensible enough thing to sometimes do, if you’re using tumblr that way

(via fierceawakening)