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peopleneedaplacetogo asked: "#like people talk a lot about toxic masculinity but i hear so little about what to *do* about it" What do you think can/should be done about it?

Honestly, I don’t know and it seems like a very tough question to me.  I think if there were more writing and discussion about it, some good ideas might rise to the surface that I would eventually notice, and I was expressing annoyance that this hasn’t happened?

Although that’s just passing the buck to other people, and if everyone did that, nothing would get done.  But there are people who spend much, much more time thinking and writing about this kind of thing than I do, so I think “it’s not my job” is a sensible response for me in particular to make.

I also make some assumptions that may not be widely shared.  I think that it’s currently infeasible (perhaps infeasible in general, but I’m not as sure) to get anywhere near a society that doesn’t have a large number of men in absolute terms (as opposed “relative to the total number of men”) with strong impulses towards Fight Club / Project Mayhem type stuff that doesn’t exist in socially sanctioned form outside of the military and maybe pro sports.  I’m not sure exactly how to define the category of stuff I’m talking about, but it feels like there is one.  I think we need to assume a roughly constant supply of “these kinds of guys” in the short term and ask how to channel their energies in the best way for society.

In other words, I think there are better and worse rules these guys can play while still being people who simply wouldn’t get along with the average feminist, and feminist writing often collapses these possibilities.  There’s a lot of feminist writing that’s quite sympathetic to men, but often it’s on the grounds that “many men aren’t actually ‘these guys,’ and just act like them sometimes because the surrounding culture expects them to.”  That’s probably true, but I still want to talk in terms of how guys who are, one way or another, going to be (so to speak) Brad Pitt characters might end up better rather than worse Brad Pitt characters.

20th Jun 201737 notes

be-kind-become-kind-deactivated asked: With the caveat that I do not know you or your life, and any advice I will be naรฏve, I nonetheless think you should probably watching Twin Peaks. It sounds like your nightmares are having nightmares and that seems to me like a good place to call it quits.

Thanks.  I’d thought about this too, but I think I’ve been having unusually vivid and unpleasant dreams recently for medication-related reasons (which have now ended), so I’m going to keep watching.  If I really do start having recurring Twin Peaks nightmares, then yeah, I’ll probably stop.

20th Jun 20172 notes

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20th Jun 20176 notes
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20th Jun 201720 notes

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20th Jun 201756,117 notes

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dirkar:

With the undertale sans pronoun debacle going on i’m reminded of how much I love watching Japanese homestucks discuss the best way to translate a work of fiction so steeped in cultural nuance. Whether or not Jake would use grandpa pronouns and Dave keeping a liberal amount of katakana Americanisms are points of contention. Makes my linguist heart flutter.

Localization nuance, this is the kind of shit I live for. Would LOVE it if you ever wanted to post about this in English in more detail, btw :)

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19th Jun 201784 notes

Cool, v Lynchian dream last night

Part of the dream backstory was that I had been having recurring nightmares inspired by Twin Peaks, and wanted them to stop but liked the show too much to stop watching. The dream took place entirely inside a sequence of these “nightmares,” ostensibly taking place across multiple nights; I drifted in and out of a “lucid dreaming” state in which I “realized” I was “having one of my nightmares about Twin Peaks” (but never became lucid enough to realize that the recurring nightmares were themselves part of the dream plot).

So there was a “dream real world,” in which I was watching Twin Peaks and having recurring nightmares, and a “dream dream world,” i.e. the nightmares themselves. I only experienced the latter directly, but “remembered” the former while “lucid.”

The dream-real-world version of the new Twin Peaks was somewhat different: it had the good and evil Dale Coopers, but rather than being in separate bodies, they were one person who would unpredictably switch between normal (seasons 1-2) Cooper and evil Cooper. The plot centered around a relationship between him and a woman, who didn’t know the two Coopers were different people/minds, and saw him as a man she loved with a dark side she didn’t understand. When he switched to evil Coop, he would often possess her (like Bob does) and cause her to do horrible things she didn’t clearly remember later, which made her life increasingly nightmarish (!).

My nightmares followed this plot structure faithfully, with me in the role of the female lead; I had only partial control over her actions, and dreaded encounters with evil Coop but couldn’t stop her/myself from going to see him. Whenever he started to possess me, I would feel this intense awful discomfort in my hands, causing them to shake. Eventually I “remembered” figuring out that this was due to some physical thing like sleeping in a position that hurt my hand, and that it wouldn’t hurt if I could stop it from shaking, so I tried to do that when the possession started (I think this caused me to actually wake up).

The dream – and the dream-real-world’s version of Twin Peaks – were set in this grandiose, creepy Art Deco hotel, where Cooper, who in the plot had become a high-powered businessman, hobnobbed with shadowy contacts. (In one scene, I was invited to a social gathering with Cooper’s friends, which turned out to be evil Coop talking conspiratorially, in chilling Lynchian gibberish, to a bunch of businessmen.) There were very long elevator rides from the ground floor to my room and vice versa, and I spent these dreading a run-in with Cooper or one of his creepy business friends (the latter were primally scary in some way even though I knew little about them).

19th Jun 201715 notes
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19th Jun 2017333 notes

Me: [remembering a conversation last night about Dragon Army Barracks, trying to think of a better analogy for “technically untried but unpromising experiment” than the one I used at the time]

Me: like, imagine the new rationalist thing was “huffing paint thinner,” because it might turn out to be a good idea somehow … no, no, that’s way too obviously terrible / impossible to argue for

Me: wait

Me: … 

Me: “By incurring this type of brain damage, which is relatively rare among the demographics represented in the rationality community, we will allow the community as a whole to sample a larger region of mindspace, decreasing our overall chances of ignoring unusual but valuable ideas.  Although there are associated costs, the fact that a number of rationalists have already agreed to my ‘huff paint thinner’ proposal in private indicates, via revealed preferences,”

18th Jun 201767 notes

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